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Red Flags

I've made some real stupid choices in relationships...I mean those "committed" kinds of relationships, where there is to be equal commitment, equal sacrifice.

I realize that all relationships are healthier if both are on even ground, I believe that's God's plan. But even more so in those life-long commitments!!! We can't pretend the red flags aren't there IF THEY ARE!!!...we can't ignore what our gut says and believe it'll just "work out". It won't...commitments to relationships just don't happen in a day. I remember something Dr. Charles Stanley said long ago..."if you don't know for sure which step to take, don't move".

If we find ourselves in any kind of situation where we're interacting constantly with someone, are beginning to commit to be true to the development of a life-time or long-term "walk" together, whether it be at work, in a marriage, professional relationship, wherever....it's our responsibility to pray, pray, pray for God to confirm that we're "all clear"...the way is ok to walk together.

And if there is any hesitancy, anything that doesn't wanna let us completely rest in that we're at the right place, we HAVE to slow down, listen more, trust more in His wisdom, seek Him...stay true to our convictions (and we know what they are, for the most part).

Believe me, the pain of separation now is much less than what the pain can be later on.

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